Feeling guilty for exercising my authority as my daughter's mother toward other people and looking for support.

TLDR: Mother and aunt posted pictures of my daughter on Facebook. I politely asked them to remove the pictures but didn't get the responses I was hoping for so now I feel guilty for exercising my parental authority.​I apologize in advance for the length and detail. For context, my husband and I are both 29 years old and our daughter (first child) is 4 months old. Since she's been born (and even when I was pregnant), I've had difficulty exercising my parental authority to others involved in her life. If I do, and get any sort of push back, I feel guilty for saying anything. This includes my family, my in-laws and our daycare provider, etc.​What prompted my post today is a specific situation that occurred with my maternal aunt and mother this week (described below) but there have been many other instances where people have made me feel guilty for the way I've chosen to raise my child. When I say "people" I generally mean my mother, although little things have happened with others, too.​Anyway, my daughter and I attended a family reunion on Saturday. Pictures were taken, it was a good time. Our close family and friends know we do not want pictures of our child on social media and have been respectful of this request until now. So, my mom called me on Monday evening to inform me that my aunt (her sister) posted pictures from the reunion on Facebook and several of them included my daughter. My mom recommended she take them down- not sure how my aunt responded. My mom went on to tell me that she also posted pictures of my daughter on Facebook but insinuated that it was okay because she posted them to a private Facebook group. I responded in short, one-word answers, like "okay" and "yeah" before we ended the conversation. I decided to sleep on it because I really didn't want to start drama, but I decided that I was making a bigger deal than it needed to be and I should just address the situation and then let it go. So yesterday morning I sent a very nice text to my aunt saying that the pictures were very cute but my husband and I have decided not to post pictures of C on social media and asked if she could please take them down. She still has not responded to my text but it appears the entire album is gone from Facebook. Kind of rude not responding in my opinion but fine. Then, I got home from work yesterday and talked with my husband about the situation. I informed him that my mom had also posted pictures of C on Facebook but it was on a closed group. After discussion, we decided that we weren't okay with that either so I texted my mom and asked her to take the pictures down, too. Right away, her response was, "did you tell Aunt to remove pictures, too?" I told her "yes" and she responded "done" after removing the pictures from Facebook. It pissed me off that, instead of owning up to her mistake, she deflects the attention to my aunt. Even if I hadn't asked my aunt to take her pictures down, I'm asking YOU, right now so you should just do it. This is not the only instance where my mom has made me feel guilty for my parenting styles and I'm sick of it. I've addressed it a couple times with her and it keeps happening. When I finally reach my breaking point, I'll say something to her. She will get very dramatic and act like the victim.​I guess I'm looking for support and advice on how to handle these situations that do (and will continue to) come up when parenting. I don't think my parenting styles are too crazy... I just want to raise a good human being without feeling guilty for how I'm doing it. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Ohn2Vp