Help, my 1.5 year old daughter sucks at sleeping.

I'll just use bullet points to describe the situation.she usually goes to bed at 7 pm and wakes up at 7 am. 1.5 to 2 hour nap after lunch.she's a good eater, although she doesn't eat terribly much for dinner, because from around 3 pm to bed time is like one big eating session, but definitely enough to not wake up from being hungry.we have a steady bedtime routine in place for a long time now.she sleeps in her own bed in our bedroom (planning to transition her to her own room once we don't have to get up a million times a night anymore)she's the sweetest kid during everything that isn't bedtime. She naps well at daycare.Now for the things that suck:she has never slept through the night except for that magical one month when swaddling was cool.she wakes up every four hours and wants milk/formula as she has always done. She will not take water, she will throw her pacifier across the room and she will not calm down unless she gets her bottle. We have cut down on the amount of formula and diluted it a bit but now she wants more. Also, she still needs a bottle to fall asleep, which is obviously a concern when it comes to sugar and her teeth.because she drinks so much formula she needs a new diaper in the middle of the night (around 3 am in the morning). She lets us know by starting a scream-fest after her third bottle for the night.three nights a week or so we are lucky and she goes back to sleep after changing, most of the times now in our bed. The other nights she will either continue fussing or she's happy and awake, which both ends with keeping us awake for the next three hours. If we put her back into her bed she will scream and not calm down. We live in an apartment block with thin walls, I'm actually surprised nobody called the police yet.between the first two regular four hour wakeups she will fuss about every minor inconvenience (around two to five times in the first interval) and will start crying if no one comes and gives her a pacifier.she has been fighting sleep every single night for at least a year. It usually takes around an hour to get her to sleep and it always (!) involves tears. I have no idea why.The lack of sleep is killing us. I know the answer will be sleep training, but Ferber and CIO based techniques are not something we will do. I know it's super popular in the US and in this sub and I will probably be downvoted for dismissing what to many of you will seem to be the obvious solution, but let's just say it's not the right thing for us and it will not happen. Especially since she is currently even more clingy than usual, we will not leave her to cry alone even for five minutes (she probably wouldn't care about me but she's practically glued to my wife since she came back from her last business trip a month ago or so).Soo...any other advice on how to fix this? Sorry for my messy English, it's 1 AM here and I'm tired as shit. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2eIii4q