What to do with a gifted 3 year old

Let me start by saying that this isn't a humblebrag, but I don't think I could talk to anyone IRL about it because I worry it will come off wrong.I've known for awhile that my three year old is smarter than average, but honestly, I was an extremely smart kid and that was difficult for me, so I've been in a bit of denial about the extent.Last week we had a parent-teacher meeting at her preschool. I knew something was up when they asked me to sign up for an "older child" spot -- her class is 3-5 year olds and she's the second youngest in the class of 20. The class cohorts the children starting kindergarten within a year into a pre-K group and does extra reading, writing and math with them. The teacher wants to include my daughter in this group starting in the fall. She says she thinks my daughter is ready and apparently my daughter goes over and hangs around them constantly while they're doing pre-K stuff and has been begging to be included. I've said OK to her doing pre-K in the fall, since she really wants to and they want her to, and this cohort isn't separated much, but this begs the question of what happens next year.Since then, we happened to have both sets of grandparents sequentially and it's been a flurry of opinions about how they feel she's gifted and many opinions about what we should do, ranging from entering her into kindergarten a year early to keeping her on age-level, but selecting a private school for her to start kindergarten at.I don't know what the right thing is. I love her preschool and the idea of labeling her so early and visibly by pushing her ahead in kindergarten makes me a little uncomfortable. Private schools are expensive and require a lot of commuting. My parents are pushing hard for a private school -- they sent me to a private school when they were in this situation (the public school district wanted to push me ahead two years), and I loved it but I really regretted not having neighborhood friends and felt uncomfortable with my very racially and socioeconomically homogenous schooling. We selected this neighborhood to be a place with great and diverse public schools. I kind of just want to ignore it and keep her in mainstream education, but I worry that she'll get bored repeating pre-K.Anyone else been in this situation or have advice? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/299PGTo