My kid was excluded from T-ball pictures

I just need to get this off my chest.My son is 5 and was recently diagnosed with autism. High functioning. I had already signed him up for T-ball, and I asked if I should keep him in, and she said I should and just see how it goes.T-ball went great for him, on the whole. Picture Day, however, not so much. It was chaotic, hot, and disorganized, and this set my son off into full meltdown.I had told the woman taking the pictures beforehand that he is autistic. However, when he wouldn't smile or sit still, since he was still in full blown panicked meltdown, she said, "If you won't sit down and smile, then you can't be in the picture." I looked at her, but didn't say anything in the chaos and didn't want to cause more of a scene. I ended up taking my son aside so she could get the picture she wanted.It bothered me, but since my son wasn't upset about it, I tried to forget about it. However, when I saw the team pictures posted in the rec hall, with plenty of kids who "weren't smiling", I got angry. You wouldn't exclude a kid who had a mental illness, you wouldn't exclude a kid with a physical disability, why did my son get excluded for something he can't help?Two minutes after the picture was taken, he was calmed down and perfectly fine. But, since he couldn't operate on someone else's chaotic schedule, he gets left out.You may not agree with me, and that's your right, but I'm just frustrated and angry right now and the thought of my son getting excluded in the future for something he just can't help brings me to tears. I'd appreciate any helpful advice or support. Thank you. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/29zngiW