So for a little background, I’m a single mom of 3. Ages 6, 9, and 10. I work full time and their dad is out of the picture. This year was difficult because this is the first year they have gone without seeing their father. He was abusive and we have a trial set this February for his charges. We’ve been separated for 4 years but they did see him up until last year. He was spoiled as a kid and handed everything. It led to me taking care of him and our kids financially our entire relationship. When we split he lived with family who supported him. He and his family always spoiled the kids.I played my part too. I was often too soft on them. This stemmed I think from their dads anger issues and harsh discipline. I struggled to discipline as much as I should.The last few months have been really hard. Their lack of care and their attitude has been poor. They don’t help when asked. Even when things are taken away, they don’t care. They refuse to help clean up. They will just sit on the couch as soon as I walk away, blame each other, argue, or cry. I know they’ve been through a lot recently but I also don’t want to raise kids who are entitled and think they can get whatever they want just because it’s expected.So would I be a terrible mom to skip the presents this year? I thought instead we could visit a retirement center and give gifts or something or the sort. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2pjWR4Y
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