Volunteering with other moms: How do I fit in? How does my kid fit in?

I recently took on a volunteer opportunity as a co-leader of what I’ll call an after-school “club.” My child is very enthusiastic about it. We are committed at least for the rest of the school year. I hope it will continue to be fun for my child.Here is the dynamic: There are three leaders, “Jane,” “Ann,” and myself. There is also a leader of another more established group, “Sue,” from whom Jane is receiving guidance. (Sue has been very helpful.)Here is my problem: Whenever I suggest anything, Jane immediately shuts it down. At first it was more passive, but I took the hint and dropped the idea. Now it’s either, “Well Sue doesn’t do it like that,” or “I don’t want to do that,” or otherwise some reason why it wouldn’t work. Ann stands there and makes no comments at all. (Finally, on one of my suggestions, Ann shook her head in agreement, but Jane still tried to brush it off.)Jane and I do seem to have different approaches, which is okay. I don’t mind doing it her way to keep the flow. I’ve never been pushy. I make a suggestion and then let it go. I get it, maybe I don’t have the best ideas all the time. In the beginning I thought, okay, but now it’s becoming so frequent that it’s starting to bother me and I’m hesitant to speak up at all about anything. Am I being too sensitive?Every time I see Jane, she makes a comment about how she can’t tolerate “crazy” children. It’s a children’s club; someone is bound to get hyped at some point. Fortunately, my child is mostly well-behaved, but I’m even concerned now that one instance could dub my kid the “wild” one.What’s more is that Jane and Ann seem to have clicked and now I feel a bit like third wheel. Whenever either of them has an idea, I’m very supportive. Jane has kind of stepped up as the main leader and I tried to build up morale by thanking her and letting her know she is doing great job. She seemed to have dismissed it. I offered to help Ann with a project and got no response. Maybe I wouldn’t have been bothered by that on its own, but with the totality of it, I’m not sure what to do to find my place in the group.I do a fair share of volunteering with other moms and we don’t always see eye to eye, but it’s never felt quite like this. I’d like to be able to see it from Jane and Ann’s perspective. I’m looking for practical advice on how I can proceed. What have you done when working with others in situations like this? Finally, what can I do to make sure my child has a good time and doesn’t receive the brunt of me being the odd one out?Thanks for letting me vent! Your comments are appreciated. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2qSkL88