Well we took everyone’s advice and compiled it and had a discussion with our son. He genuinely listened and understood how he was in the wrong. It was actually shocking how receptive he was.. like I had said before he’s a good kid who means well usually. He apologized to the girl and told her he will not talk like that to her again or pressure her to do anything ever.Today she broke up with him and her reasoning was because he made her uncomfortable.. which I’m not surprised. So he’s truly learning his lesson that he needs to watch what he says to people! I did not tell him “ I told you so” of course, but just reiterated the huge discussion we had the other day about boundaries and such.Apparently his 7th grade class is already having major problems with Snapchat and sending nudes even. So he started a conversation about that and realizes how damaging and inappropriate it is.We may reach out to the school counselor because from what he says it seems like these kids need a huge talking to about social media and Snapchat. So if you have young tweens/teens I highly, highly suggest you monitor their Snapchat as best you can...Thanks for all the advice from everyone! I definitely needed it since he’s our oldest and we were both at a loss.Original postMy 12 year old is pressuring girlsHe’s a good kid, good grades, never been in any trouble, a good sibling...I check his phone periodically and it’s pretty boring 7th grade talk usually, so I don’t bother often. He’s had 3 “girlfriends” since school started which is.. weird, but nothing unusual about them.He was at his other parents this weekend and he generally texts more and has more freedoms there, at our house we don’t allow his phone in his room. So I checked it and see he’s “dating” another girl.. whatever fine I guess? But he’s pressuring her for pictures and “alone time” and asking what they would do alone and how far she would go and if she wanted to talk about sex but used emojis... I was kind of shocked I guess because he was never that forward with other girls. I honestly think he doesn’t even like this girl as more than a friend, but feels pressured to have a girlfriend. Her responses were “I don’t know” or some variation, so she seemed uncomfortable.. I was kind of disgusted about how many times he brought up wanting to get her alone..We have an open dialogue and he’s talked about consent and peer pressure.. I’m not even sure what to say to him? Is this even a big deal? To me his words felt predatory and creepy.. and he’s my son, but maybe I’m overreacting... via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2qAffai
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