My wife, step-son and I have officially been a family for about a year now (but we met about 2 years ago)When i met my step-son, he was a frankly already a very big kid (tipping the scales at 300 pounds at just 12). It'd be easy to blame my wife for allowing that but the truth is is that my wife was a in a brutally abusive relationship with her ex and while my step-sons bio father was never physical with him, i can understand how a child hides behind food while his mother is being beaten. FYI, his bio father is out of the picture 👏🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻Over the past two years, my step-son and wife have gone through some counseling and they both have come out much more mentally stronger, however, my sons weight has unfortunately not seen any positive results.Now, i dont mean to toot my own horn, but im a very in shape man. I run 6 miles everyday, I eat clean meals--i do a pretty good job keeping trim. I say that because I think i do a good job of setting a positive example for my son in living a healthy life. However, Because he's my step-son of only 1 year, i admit i feel uncomfortable bringing up his weight or criticizing him in any way. So, i have sort of left it up to him to want to follow in my healthy footsteps, but so far he just hasnt. We so some active activities together. Im obviously not having him run 6 miles with me but we do have fun shooting hoops, and throwing a baseball around. While its a good step, those activities obviously are not super strenuous.While iv been very hands off and passively encouraging I have a reached a moment where i feel like i cant keep quiet. Today i got a letter from his school in regards to his height and weight that they collected from gym class. As of right now, he's 5'8" and 476 pounds at just 14 years old. When i saw those numbers, my jaw hit the floor. I knew he had gained weight since we've met but i never could have imagined it was that much.This entire time, iv just been hoping he would want to join me in getting healthy but im scared he'll just never want that help. I mean, he's 14 and approaching 500 pounds. If his sense of urgency isn't already there, idk if it ever will be.With that said, im frankly still too scared to say anything. From a selfish standpoint, i have worked really hard to gain the love and respect from my family and im afraid to shake it up. I even feel weird calling my step-son my step-son because as far as im concerned, he's my boy. Iv only known him for two years but i love him as if he was my own.I guess i just want my son to know that i love him more than anything and im not coming from a place of judgement or ill-intent (cause im not at all). Im proud of son no matter what size he is. I just worry about his mental and physical health. I see him run out of breath walking up the stairs or even tying his shoes and it breaks my heart. He's an awesome kid with an unreal sense of humor and personality. I just dont wanna see his weight continue to handicap his greatness the way it has.How do i approach this? Do i just suck it up and go for it? what do i say? God im driving myself crazy with this lol via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/36vjdRu
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