My parenting style is on the rather strict side with my children. Recently my son turned 7 and he‘s now starting to rebel against my ways. According to my wife, understandably so. (For the record she’s a lovely mother and has tried to talk me out of my strict ways many times over the past 3 years. It’s not that i disagree, it’s that i cant change easily because this is how I was raised...I recently read the book stop yelling and love me more please mom and it hit me like a brick. I’ve been yelling at my son for the smallest things and it’s very unhealthy. Also there are certain things i have to tell him over and over again - like dont talk loudly when his baby sister is sleeping (he has a tendency to yell when excited). And sit still at the dinner table. For the past year i’ve been extremely disappointed in him that he still hasnt “got it” after literally a year of trying, and this is the biggest part of our problem. The book helped remind me that he might need more time than others to get there. He might need 2 years, maybe 3.What i thought i was doing out of love and trying to be a good father has crumbled down and i’m having a panic attack.I’m just venting. I’d appreciate if you didnt add salt to the wound - i’m bringing enough of that onto myself.What I would appreciate, is hearing other people’s stories about similar situations. Especially how you changed yourself so fundamentally. Hopefully i’m not the only one to have experienced this.I’m so sorry son if i was a bad father to you for so many years already. Posting this is my commitment to you that I’ll change and be a more peaceful father. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/34jxeA2
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