I'm just happy my son is developing at an average rate.

My best friend of 17 years was pregnant with her second child and at the same time I was pregnant with my first. We had our babies 3 weeks apart, hers being the older.Pregnancy together felt so fulfilling, even though our parenting styles were different, for example, she tried to push formula on me because she didn't manage to breastfeed her first, even though I said I wanted to breastfeed. Formula wasn't even a consideration unless it was a necessity but I'd go through hell and high water before giving in. Luckily it came naturally.Our children are 6 month old now, and every message since their births has been a pissing contest on her part. Whenever my son has hit a milestone, hers did it last month. Whenever my son has tried a new food, hers had it as part of a three course meal, if my son had been to Tenerife, hers would have been to twelverife. You get the picture.She would send me videos of her child making a monotonous repetitive consonant sound and she'd say "he's saying dada/mama already, I'm so proud." and I'd humour her and just say he was very clever. Then she'd say something like, "formula fed babies can be smarter than breastfed babies." and completely undermine what I believe to be best for me and my son, as though there's some secret war I'd not heard about where formula fed babies are dunces and she needed to justify it to someone unwilling to participate in her self actualised bull crap. Then she started with the crawling pictures. Never videos, just pictures of her son on his belly, crawling. Again, I'd humour her even though he'd have been about 12 to 13 weeks at the time.And I'm not really sure why. She's already successfully raised 1 child who is beautiful and smart, and so confident it makes my heart pop. Why is she trying to turn this into a pissing contest? It baffled me. Anyway, for a while I guess it did make me feel like I wasn't doing everything I could to help my son develop.But then she gave another quip and I just couldn't take it any more. It was very targeted at my sons development. But then I had a self realisation that my son is exactly where he needs to be. He isn't behind. He isn't in front. He's developing just as babies should. Why would my best friend try to make raising healthy children into a game?I've since cut contact because no child's development should be put into question by someone so unsupportive. She made me feel like there was something wrong when everything was right.Sorry for waffling on, I read a post and was triggered into these deep feelings. Thanks for taking the time to read this. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2X3WcRs