Frustrated with husband's participation in daughter's events

I just need to vent for a minute. I just snapped at my husband because he was complaining about my daughter having two birthday parties to attend the weekend before Thanksgiving (in the US). It took me a minute to figure out exactly what I was feeling so I could explain it to him, but here's what I told him: the birthday parties are important to me because by attending, I'm also supporting the parents, who are my friends (my daughter is 4, so these are all parties where the parent stays). I think it's also important for my daughter because she loves the social interaction, and it supports her blooming social life. I told him that and apologized for being mean earlier. He told me that he doesn't snap at me when I complain about having to do things for our daughter that I don't really want to do.This makes me want to rage at him. I mean, I may sometimes complain about these things, but I am also almost always the only one who ever takes her to these things! He never goes to any of these birthday parties with her. He doesn't go to the park with her to meet friends (or even just to take her to play). He doesn't take her to any of the classes she's signed up for (even if he's not at work...I obviously don't expect him to skip work for a weekly class). She asks him sometimes to come, and he says he won't because he doesn't want to. I'm a SAHM, so I expect a majority of these activities to be my purview, but he doesn't even attempt to be active in this part of her life when he *is* home. I'm trying to balance the fact that he's very introverted and needs some alone time on the weekend to refresh from and for his job and being very frustrated that he rarely wants to do stuff outside of the house with her and will only do just a family thing if he does. Honestly, I'm not really sure what's fair here, and I generally don't mind taking her to the parties. I just feel annoyed that he doesn't want to spend time with her in these other types of settings. :( Thanks for letting me vent. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2CBNd0h