Stay at home parents: what does your working spouse expect from you when they get home?

Me and my husband have been at odds for almost our entire relationship about what I’m expected to do by the time he gets home (dinner time). I’m emotionally exhausted by the time he arrives home, between 5:30 and 6:30 most days. I’m thrilled with what I’ve accomplished for the day only to have him come inside and be visibly upset that things aren’t clean enough. I’m a school teacher during the year, I also recently made it into graduate school, and he works a really tough manual labor job as a brick mason/concrete worker. We have an 18 month old and a 4 year old. I cook all three meals from scratch every day and am super dedicated to feeding our kids whole foods. I have the counters wiped down as good as possible most days, dishes done, laundry done and mostly put away, most toys picked up aside from the play room. We cloth diaper so we have a lot of laundry generated throughout the week. The floors are mostly clean but he arrives at dinner time so there’s typically stuff on the floor that I don’t get to until the morning by which time he’s gone and doesn’t get to see them spick and span. Not much is left out on our counters and if it is it’s just because I don’t know exactly where to put it. I do bed time, bathing, books, teeth, pajamas, the whole nine yards. My bedside table is usually a mess but I feel entitled to that as it’s my one area for myself. I take the kids to the library twice a week for activities, we go outside and play a lot, we run errands often. We recently moved into a bigger house and I’m finding it hard to keep it nice because honestly I’m a forgetful mess which I blame on a combination of parenthood and severe ADHD. I enjoy making things as easy and wholesome for him as possible because he really has a hard job but it feels like I’m constantly coming up short. For example, tonight he got home and after the kids finished dinner he gave them some golf balls to play with in the yard and we set off a couple of fireworks. I sequestered the outdoor trash to a certain part of the yard for easy clean up later. He asked me to clean up outside while he went to work in the barn for a bit. But I feel like that shouldn’t have another thing added to my plate because I didn’t give them the golf balls and I had already started a trash pile that well add to tonight and I’ll clean in the morning. I had just sat down for the first time since 2pm as well and my grumpiness at being asked to do something after everything we did today was just....a lot. A lot of grump. What does your working spouse expect from you daily? How do you delegate tasks? What’s their reaction if a task isn’t completed?TL:DR I feel like I’m expected to do a lot around the house and my husband is constantly upset I’m not doing more. Am I lazy or are his expectations skewed? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2JclZ4x