When our daughters (17f, 16f) were born, my (49m) wife (48f) and I decided she would stay home with them and I would work. They had a good relationship up until about 2years ago, when I guess the teenage hormones kicked in hard and they started not wanting to hang with their parents. I totally get that, I didn’t want to hang with mine either, but with that came a meanness towards their mother that I don’t get. My wife is always there for them, does everything for them at the drop a dime. They don’t even realize all of the things she does yet they treat her like crap. Its mostly just isolating themselves from her, but also acting like everything she says is dumb, not telling her anything about their lives, cringing and pulling away when she tries to be affectionate with them and not wanting to do anything together with her. They used to watch a certain show together and my wife was eagerly awaiting the new season to come out so they could have that again , but they just told her coldly that they binge watched it without her and didn’t see the big deal. I don’t spend nearly as much time around them as she does because I am always working so I don’t get the same treatment, but I am also not as starved for affection as my wife is from them. She desperately wants to be a part of their lives..I think she always pictured her and them being best friends, shopping together, giving them relationship advice etc.I’ve gone off on the girls for this, punished them, took away privileges etc. but nothing changes. My wife is one of those people who is always happy, positive and wanting to help people. I’ve told her to just back off...to give them space...which she has....and things will eventually get better, but it’s really hurting her. Anyone else been thru this that can help me make it easier on her? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/329DMAV
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