Thanksgiving disagreement with my mother...

Sometimes I feel like my mother will never view me as a good mother. We have very different parenting styles and I think she wishes I was more like her. I’m pretty laid back with my 11 month old and that couldn’t be more opposite than the way I was raised.I hosted Thanksgiving at my house this year, nothing huge, just my parents, my boyfriend, the baby, and I. We all sat down to eat and I put some mashed potatoes onto the baby’s high chair tray. In my mind, she’s going to get dirty no matter what and this way at least I get to eat my food while its hot- no one else volunteered to feed her.My mom looks over and says “hm... well you’re a better woman than me, I would NEVER just give her potatoes like that. I would feed her with a spoon.”Something inside me came unhinged and I just snapped back “well you don’t have to be a martyr to be a mother and I would enjoy actually eating dinner too.”I’m conflicted and I feel like maybe I was too harsh in my comeback but at the same time I felt attacked and undermined in a way. The rest of the night we got along just fine but this encounter has really gotten stuck in my mind. Can anyone relate? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2KtqUgE