By court order this past two 1/2 weeks are mine with my kids entirely for thanksgiving rather than the typical week on week off we do normally. This alternates every holiday every year, they have this same deal for Christmas. EVERY holiday that falls on my time they try and badger me to have a verbal agreement to change the order so they can see the kids too “Because the kids will want to see everyone. It’s for the kids not us”. Do you think that happens when it’s their time? Hell NO. I barely get a 5 minute phone call before they’re telling the kids “time to go do insert fun thing here gotta get off the phone”.Well this year I knew my ex would be alone in the middle of nowhere on some detail for his job so I offered him to have them a Friday afternoon-Sunday night. He was perplexed but thankful. He kept asking me what plans husband and I had that I couldn’t have the kids (I have three other kids under 4. My oldest, most well behaved kids would not be the reason my husband and I couldn’t make plans...so NOTHING I’m just trying to co parent and do what Id want done for me while trying to hopefully curb the bullshit that will pop up on thanksgiving).Well this morning he calls as expected, perfectly fine. The kids don’t want to talk so he asks me to download an app so they can face time...ugh. Fine. He’s being annoying, pestering them about what they’re going to do, you sound sick you should be doing X, Y, Z to get better. What are you eating? Is it enough? (I’m making a freaking 8 dish meal for 10 people shut up man). Finally I have to have them get off the phone because I can’t take it anymore, I have a lot to do and I don’t have time for this, and they’re not enjoying the call either. I immediately deleted this app once we hung up.Then 20 mins later I have a missed call and then a text demanding she gets to talk/video call the kids too. I ignored it. They already talked to their dad, the parent. I already gave them a day and a half of time that wasn’t theirs so they could leave me alone over my holiday.Besides my rant my question is, should I have them video call? I really don’t have the time. And she’s not ever accommodating to me. She’s usually a major burden and we have a long history of her toying with my kids emotions and thoughts so I don’t want her trying to one up our holiday with whatever she’s doing with her family. I’m sad to say this ALWAYS happens when she talks to them. About all the things they’re doing that the kids would just love or what gifts they have there but they’ll have to wait til they get home. Even Halloween this lady told my kids she bought $100 worth of candy and they’d never get that trick or treating with me.Ugh ok I’m done ranting I’m just so over holidays. We can’t even enjoy them. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2PLbdXS
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