My daughter is in full day pre k and still does these horrific trantrums/ meltdowns occasionally. She doesn't care where. At home or on the streets. A little backstory. We live in a hispanic neighborhood where these Mexican ladies will stand outside the school with toys and candy in small carts to sell for $1-$5. The whole concept of them being allowed on the school block and right outside the exit doors is beyond obnoxious but everyone else seems ok with this and its a regular everyday thing in this neighborhood, i guess its a cultural thing? Since day one when my daughter sees these carts with toys and candy she goes nuts and as soon as we walk out of the school will rush to the lady to see what cheap made in china garbage toys she has. And every day i have to grab my daughters hand and coerce her to leave with me. She will listen to me on most days going "ok mommy" though upset but still cooperating but if shes in a mood or had a bad day she will then and there have a full on world war 3 mother of all meltdowns. She will wail and screech at the top of her lungs "I WANT A TOOOOOOOOY! I WANT A TOOOOOOOOOY!!!!" "MOOOOMMMY!!!!" over and over and over....She will sit on the ground and not budge and just kick and wail. Its so embarrassing when the parents of the other children are passing by and shaking her heads at us..No amount of me kneeling down to talk to her calmly, no amount of calmly waiting for her to snap out of it, no amount of me raising my voice and making threats works on her.Its not like i never got her those junk toys. One time because the teacher told me she did especially well i treated her to pick a toy and she choose some bizarre tiny plastic toilet with candy inside....i convinced her not to eat the candy and the toilet broke in half by the end of the day. Totally worth the $3....Today marks the 5th time since the start of her pre-k i had to grab her and lift her off the ground with her kicking and trying to scratch me and contorting herself so i can get her home (luckily we are within walking distance). Once she comes home her punishment is usually a time out, both for her health and mine since i usually come home with a huge headache and my heart racing. Followed by me walking into the bedroom and talking to her about how what she did was wrong. How because of what she did, i'm taking away x,y and z. She usually apologizes and we go about our day. I love this little girl i really do....but please when does this phase end? Why do i never see other kids acting like her?? WHY ME!?!?! When do little monsters like her grow some damn %$#%$! common sense? Why do i always feel like im a bad mom and im failing her... via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2DRfrHi
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