I need to know I’m making the right decision

My SO and I are splitting up. It’s a long story and I won’t get into it all, but basically we’ve been together for 18.5 years and he’s never had a job and it’s never been because we agreed on it. He’s controlling, narcissistic, and he’s just a toxic. We have 4 daughters together, 2 of which are in fragile early teen years (11.5 & 13), I’ve been trying to leave him for a few months now but it’s never “the right time”. Anyway, I can’t do it anymore so I’ve asked him to leave. I’ve also been offered a position, that from a career standpoint, I cannot pass up. It would benefit my family in the long run, but it’s a 6 hour drive from anyone and everything I know and love. The company is flying me out in early December to meet the team and I am pretty certain they’re going to make me an official offer.My question is: Is uprooting my children, leaving their father, and moving away from our support systems (my parents, friends, kids friend and teachers, etc) a recipe for disaster? My kids want to move. They’ve both expressed that they are excited for an adventure, but that was before their father and I declared we were separating. My 11 year old has begged me to leave him, the 13 year old does not agree, she feels sorry for him because she’s the peacemaker. Staying together and working it out, i.e couples counseling is not an option anymore. I am just done.Do I take this job that will springboard us financially ($30,000/yr jump from what I’m making now) or stay where I’m at given the circumstances? My fear is that this will be too much for the kids. My kids come first, but I’m so torn. Has anyone been in this position? How did you handle it? How did it turn out? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2zg1634