At a stand off with 14 year old daughter

My daughter has been pissed at me ever since her dad and I divorced. Even though it wasn’t because of me and even though she knows the reason. She still blames me for leaving him. She has a 2 year old little sister, a product of the reason for my divorce. I’m not in the business of bashing my ex because although he was a shitty husband, he’s not a shitty father. He loves his kids and they love him. If he wouldn’t have gotten his side chick pregnant, I probably wouldn’t have divorced him. But I couldn’t deal with him having a baby outside of our marriage. I would have done a lot to keep my family together, but dealing with my husband having a baby with the woman he had an affair with and staying with him after that? Nope. Sorry not sorry 🤷🏼‍♀️Anyways, she blames me for it. Puts me on guilt trips, threatens to go live with her dad. If I tell her no, she says “Dad would let me,” even though he wouldn’t. This latest is because she thinks she should have an 11:00 curfew...at 14! No. Sorry that your friends are allowed to stay out that late, but that’s not my problem. They’re in 8th grade. No way in hell should 8th grade girls be out that late at the mall just because it’s open late for the holidays.She refuses to talk to me. I try to get her to understand my reasons and she just says “so and so’s mom lets them” 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ I remember using that line on my mom lol. And now I see why it never worked. So eventually I just get tired of it and remind her that I don’t need to give reasons why I say no to things. It’s just because I said so 🤷🏼‍♀️I don’t think my rules are unreasonable. She’s generally a pretty good kid. Doesn’t ever get into real trouble. It’s mostly mouth that gets her in trouble. But she gets good grades, always makes honor roll, has almost a 4.0 GPA. And she thinks because of that that I should let her do whatever she wants. I disagree. And I win because I’m the parent 🤷🏼‍♀️ But I’m really starting to be lost for what to do with her. If she gets told no, she acts like a spoiled brat about it, cops the attitude, rolls the eyes, slams her door. She thinks that because she wants to go somewhere and she waits until the last minute to ask that I’m supposed to just drop what I’m doing right then and there and take her. I guess it’s typical teenage behavior, but this is just now starting for her. She’s always tried to put me on guilt trips since the divorce, but the attitude is new territory. I don’t know if I should try to attack it head on or leave her alone until she cools off. I’m a little stuck with this one 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2DqLUmK