Advice from 20yo to parents

I'm 20 years old and I can't analyse my actions. I've spent most of my life just doing what others told me without questioning anything. I had a lot of false friends, I did a lot of stupid things and right now I'm studying for something that I don't like.One of the causes of this, is that I have never analysed my feeling and my actions. My parents used to tell me what I must do and what I must not do. If I had any contrasting emotition I had to shut it up. If I did anything for 'rebelling' I must have been punished.I ended up 20 years old unable to manage my emotions and without any goal in life.I would like to give an advice to other parents. When your children do something that you think it's wrong, ask them why they did it. Talk with them and help them understanding the effects of their actions. Give them a choice among different possible actions, telling them the effects that each one of those has. Please, be open minded and accept the fact that sometimes even you may be wrong.I know that parenting is very difficult, and sometimes you just won't have the energy to do the right thing. If this happens remember to tell your children to ask for an explanation later in the day, and please give that explanation.I would like to say much more, but it would take too long. Please teach your children to be conscious of their actions. Otherwise they will just do what others tell them. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2omhFWp