I am new to reddit and this is actually my first post. Any tips or feedback is greatly appreciated.I have been blessed with three amazing sons. Each with their own personality and outlook on life. Watching these three boys grow and mature has been one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. I have been given, not one, but THREE, opportunities to watch as God takes these little creatures from birth to, what will one day be, AMAZING adults. I have done my best to instill in them a sense of character and integrity that will help guide them on their way as they grow. I want to give them a firm foundation to build on. From how to follow through with their commitments to how to treat a lady. It is not always easy and I am FAR from the model dad, but I can honestly say that I have always put them first in any major plans throughout their lives.My oldest "Honest-E" is my right hand man. He is about to be 14. He is one of the smartest people I know. From a young age, he was speaking with words that many adults I know, could not understand. He thinks outside the box and has an innate desire to figure things out. He is brilliant! He is a lot like I am. He is so smart that he usually bores easily. In school he is usually taking on more than the others, because he does not want to be stagnant. He reads extra books, plays sports, finishes lessons before they are assigned, etc.. If he could control himself and focus (something I never grasped), he would have the world at his feet. Doctor, engineer, ANYTHING he chooses would be his for the taking. I want him to strive for the best because I know what he is capable of. In the end, I will be proud of him no matter what, but i want him to be proud of himself too. He is not only smart, but he is just a joy to be around. He is super funny and silly. He and I have had a bond ever since the day he was born. He came into this world screaming as many babies do. I remember walking over to him as the nurse was cleaning him off and I told him, "everything is ok, buddy. Daddy's here.". He immediately stopped crying and turned his head toward me. I feel a DEEP connection with that boy. Even now, when he is upset or angry about something, I will tell him that I am here and everything is ok. He usually stops, closes his eyes, takes a deep breath, and then he is calm enough to deal with the issue. He is becoming a man. I want to help him grow into a man of integrity. A man people will count on. A man people will want to be around because he inspires them to be better. He may not know it, but he IS these things for me, even now.My second son, "Middle E" is my tender warrior. He is a humble boy that has a heart of gold. His attention to detail is uncanny. That boy does not miss much. He is 6 and while he may not seem to be listening, he is quick to correct you if you say something that is not quite right. Not too long ago, he was playing a hand-held game while we were driving to the pet store. My mother and I were talking and I did not think the little ones were listening. I told my mother that something was stupid. He stopped and said, "daddy, stupid is an ugly word and you really shouldn't say it." I agreed and told him I would try not to say it again. Lol. He is incredibly kind and will usually be the one of the three that will give up a game or a toy to one of his brothers, even though he knows they will not return the favor later. I find myself defending him sometimes when the other two try to take advantage of him because of that. I know how it feels when some take advantage of your kindness and use it to hurt you. I try to use those situations as teaching moments for all of the boys. Middle-E sometimes wakes up in the night and comes and lies down in my bed. I wake up with his little arm wrapped around my neck. Sometimes I feel him give me a kiss on my cheek and tell me he loves me. Those moments warm my heart. This kid reminds me to give, even when people don't appreciate your sacrifice.Then there is my little one, The bEast. He is an alpha-male through and through. He may be the smallest one, but he will back down from NO ONE. Middle E will ask him to get toys from down the hall at night when no lights are on, because he knows the bEast has no fear. He doesn't walk, he marches with his head held high and his chest pushed out. Into the darkness as if he is a knight going into the dragon's lair. The boy knows no fear. He has no problem sticking up for himself with his brothers either. Even my soon-to-be 14 year old gives him credit and backs down from him at times. But one of the things I admire most about him is his willingness to protect his brothers. When he sees My oldest doing something that upsets Middle-E, he is quick to step in and take up for him. At times he is even ready to fight if it comes to that. I have never allowed it to get that far, but I have seen the determination in his eyes. It makes me proud to see him so willing to defend somebody else. It's almost as if he has accepted it as his duty to be the protector. Plus, the boy is about as adorable as a kid can get. His blond hair and that mischievious grin will make you think twice about punishing him. Lol.For these reasons and MANY more, I want to say thank you to my boys. I may not always do things right, but I will always do my best for you. You are my heart and soul. My whole world is wrapped up in you three little men. You are my biggest accomplishments, my greatest loves, my most valuable relationships. The world without any of you would not be as bright. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2pgYue3
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