How to get my husband to help more with our toddler and everything else?

I am a stay at home mom with a 23 month old and my husband works 40 hours a week(4 days from home and 1 day at the office). He straight up will not help with anything. I feel like his mom most days. He won't pick up after himself(leaves dishes everywhere, leaves dirty clothes on the floor everywhere, wrappers and cans everywhere!) to top this off my toddler also leaves crap everywhere(which is fine she's only 23 months old)so I'm always cleaning up 24/7. I also cook, grocery shop, pay all the bills, do home and lawn work, deal with everything and walk the stupid dogs that are his that I don't even want!He also never helps with her ever. He sleeps in every weekend while I wake up every day at 6:30-7am with her and he bitches if we are too loud in the morning so usually we leave and go somewhere because I don't want to listen to it. He usually gets up at 10-11am, takes a long bath or shower and by this time she's down for a nap! Then he plays video games or watches tv while I clean, cut the grass(yes he doesn't do that either), fix stuff around the home(last week I recaulked around the windows and doors and repainted it and sprayed for weeds). Then when she gets up he "runs errands" which is usually him getting a energy drink and buying some dumb crap we don't need. Then he gets home and plays with her for maybe 5 mins and then goes back to video games or takes another long bath. Then we eat dinner and he runs off again to do whatever while I clean the dishes and give her a bath. Then it's her bedtime(he has never put her to bed ever)! I say stuff to him but he says well you stay home so isn't it your job! Then I say I'll go back to work again and he doesn't want that(I would work nights and weekends so he would watch her while I work and if I worked a 9-5 we couldn't afford the daycare).We tried it before but he just plain cant handle her and call me every 5 mins bitching and asking when I'd be home.He just stuck her in front of the tv the whole time I was working and she busted her lip bad twice from falling into stuff(I think he wasn't watching her and she fell off the couch or bed). Anyways what do I do? I'm at wits end! We have no family near so I can't get help from them and he refuses to help. I'm so stressed out and can't take it anymore. He was never like this before we had her and always helped me and supported me! We were together 8 years before we had a child. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2os5RDt