Ok maybe its because im a bit of an introvert, and maybe its just because im a sort of jaded individual who tries to not interact with the world unless i absolutely must. I have few friends but they are people i've known forever and trust. But regardless, i have two beautiful babies, a happy home and a loving husband. With my kids i am absolutely different than how i am with the rest of humanity, i'm cheery, patient and practice gentle parenting. I also try my very best at being a good role model for them and this includes how i treat others in front of them.My oldest is currently in pre-k and he only went because he decided last summer he turned 4 that he wanted to go because his one friend was going to go. Otherwise i would have just left him home with me. Whenever i have to talk to his teachers it really bugs me. I don't really know why that is. Maybe it's because i feel forced to like them for my son's sake. Maybe it's when they offer me ridiculous advice like they know my son more than me. Or maybe it's when said advice oversteps the boundaries i've set between myself and strangers.One time his teacher comes up to me to ask why my mother (his grandmother) drops him off and picks him up almost everyday if i am a stay at home mom. This honestly seemed like a harmless question so i told her it was because my mom liked to do it, she was retired and it gave her something to do each day and she loves it. Plus it gives me time to run errands with my youngest, get dinner and stuff done when he comes back (it's only in the afternoons). For some reason his teacher decided to keep pressing the issue and go "well maybe for a few days you can let grandma make dinner and you come get him?" I asked her why she said that and she said she thinks my son would like it if i changed my routine. I honestly left it at that and went home with my son. I asked him that night if there was anything he wanted to tell me and if he wanted me to start taking him and its ok with me he goes "no i really like when grandma comes to get me everyday! dont change it!" He actual got upset over the thought of me changing the routine me and my mom made.It's just many little things like that. This woman has told my mother that my son should wear different types of pants because the ones i send him in "don't fit him properly". Even though when i take him out in the same pants they fit him just fine, don't fall down and arent tight. Or when she asks me why my son doesn't like canteloupe or watermelon. He just doesn't lady! Not everything has to have backstory! Or why doesn't my son join an afterschool program "like the rest of his friends". Because those programs cost MONEY. And we can't afford them! Thank you soooo much for asking me that in front of other parents and my son though that was great. Or coming to me looking concerned and asking why don't i schedule "playdates on the weekends." I do, just not EVERY weekend and not with those kids, my son knows kids outside that classroom too and he has cousins and a sibling. Not every saturday has to be super mary poppins day filled with park and other people's houses. Some saturdays i just want to relax and unwind and do the damn laundry. Just stop asking these questions and leave me alone sheessh..Yes don't get me wrong i know these ladies are only trying to do their job and get to know my son better...right? And id never actually say any of these things outloud because i love my son too much and he likes these people. I guess i'm just venting because i wish i was in a better financial situation where i can homeschool him...that and i have to go to another parent teacher meeting next week where i have to sit down and listen to the ever nosy question "so how's everything at home with your family?"Edit: Im a bit relieved to see that im not the only one who thinks those questions are weird. The one that bothered me the most was the one where she wanted me to start taking him to and from school. I felt dare i say, a bit violated in that she felt she could suggest how i should schedule my day and my family. I even started taking him to school more much to my son's dismay just because i felt like i was being seen as a lazy mother if i didn't via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2pvze7I
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