Smoking home issues (infant)

Hello all,As of October 9th my wife and I are the proud parents of a beautiful baby girl. She is incredible and has changed how I see the world. Lots of love here:)For the issue at hand: my wife's parents (smokers) have not yet met their new granddaughter and won't be able to until we travel to them, because they're unable to travel due to her father's COPD. Despite all of the health issues that it has brought them, they continue to be smokers. Their house smells strongly of smoke, they still smoke in the bathroom and at doorways to the outside. This creates much stress for the rest of their family, but they are unapproachable to the subject; both are very much in denial to their situation and the awful problems it has caused them.So we're now approaching thanksgiving and the plan is to travel to them so that they can meet their granddaughter. Our pediatrician has clearly explained to my wife and I that being in their home poses a risk to our infant, due to third-hand smoke. This situation is causing my wife much stress, because her parents have an expectation that we'll stay with them while visiting, as we always have. My wife stated to me today that it will probably be okay to stay with them, since it will only be a couple of days. I immediately told her that I disagree, and that I think we should get a hotel. She then began crying but agreed that is for the best. Beyond that, I don't even want my daughter to enter their home for visiting/thanksgiving dinner, but my wife and I haven't discussed that part yet.So now we're faced with a few issues. Am I correct in my thinking that I should not bring our daughter into the smoking home? If I am correct, then what is the solution that I pose to my wife as an alternative to going to their home? I expect this will be a difficult discussion for my wife and I. And once my wife and I are able to come to a mutual agreement as to how to navigate this visit, how does my wife convey this message of our plan to her parents? She is deeply concerned that they will disapprove of our decision and be upset.Thank you for your help. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2dwDYmB