New mom insecurities

Hello, I'm to Reddit but I feel like I need a forum like this to vent and just get some new perspective. I think all new parents go through moments where they're not sure their food things right so I guess everything I'm feeling is normal and expected. But I seem to get a lot of unsolicited criticism and advice from my side and my husband's side.My dad always calls me a "mother hen" for following my 11 month old as she explores. I do want her to explore but I also know she is very curious and doesn't hesitate to put things in her mouth. He's constantly trying to feed my daughter things that are outside her age group or things I'm just comfortable introducing to her yet. There are many more incidents but is there a character limit?!My mother-in-law is a nice woman and does anything and everything for her own kids and grandchildren. So my husband's sister had a baby shortly after our daughter was born. I was with both my sister-in-law (SIL) and mother-in-law (MIL) not long ago and we were planning to go for a walk. My MIL turns to my SIL and asked if he was going to put a hat on her baby. She said no so my MIL said that my baby didn't need a hat either. My SIL said that was my decision. The most recent incident happened just a few nights ago. Again my MIL and SIL were over but this time my husband was also with us. We were all watching to see if our daughter would walk. She's been standing in her own and taking little steps but we wanted to see if she would string together a few steps and come to me. So we tried and she did it! We were so thrilled. We got our the video and tried to recreate the moment. It wasn't going as well once we were filming so my MIL got in front of me to try and get my daughter to go to her on film! Is this not outrageous!?! My husband said he was outraged and will talk to her. There have been other incidents with this side, too.My husband and I are well educated, have good careers, have a solid relationship with each other so I don't know where this need to intervene and critique comes from. It seems that everything we do it wrong the decision. My problem, and I know, is that I lack confidence. I'm not able to tell my family or my husband's family to back off. We have our own parenting style that may not look like there's but that's okay! Our daughter is progressing just fine, hitting all her milestones and that's what important to us.How do you handle intrusive, know-it-all relatives? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2dx2CoV