I'll try to give some back story that might help understand the situation better.My son is 13 and I am no longer with his father. We share custody (I get him one week, he gets him one week, trade off or spilt holidays and vacations).His father had another child with someone after me, She is now 6. He is no longer with her mother either but they share custody as well. He gets his daughter the same week that he gets our son. His father is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend (they live together) and she has a daughter that is 7.My sons sister (6) has been peeing and having BMs in her pants at school. She got a UTI and had to go to the doctor. I guess when they took her to the doctor she freaked out when the doctor tried to look at her down there. The school had thought that her peeing her pants was a warning sign for someone that was molested and called a meeting between my sons dad and his sisters mother.My sons dad contacted me this morning letting me know the situation with his daughter, and saying that he doesn't know what is going on yet but that his grandma overheard my son awhile back asking his step-sister (his dad's girlfriends daughter) to sleep without her panties on and that he would give her money. Also there was some instance with one of his female cousins a few years back that I was never informed of until today.I kept in contact with his father throughout the day when we've had time because we're both at work. They did some digging I guess, and talked to some family members and it has come to light that he has been touching his step sister (7), and a neighbor of his cousins (8). Apparently nothing with his female cousin recently, she's 9 now. All of this leads to believing that he likely has molested his little sister (6).A lot of the time when children do this, it's likely it has happened to them in the past. His uncle and his grandma both live on his grandpas old property (100 acres of land out in the county). There is a guy who lives in a house right outside their property line, and I've always hated him. I guess he had exposed himself to my sons uncles when they were 5 and 7 and touched their private parts. I don't know why they never went to the police about it. I never understood it. My son spends a lot of time with his uncle and grandma and they have assured me that that guy is not allowed anywhere near the part of their property that their house is on, and that he keeps to himself now / has trouble walking etc. But I know my son (or thought I did) and I know that likes to go places he isn't supposed to, explore the fields between their houses, and could likely run into him. I don't know for sure he was molested but I feel it's a possibility.I don't know what to do. There are two young girls he molested that he lives with, and my boyfriends niece is living with us for now. I will be talking with her when I get home to see if she has anything she wants to tell me. I don't know how to approach it though. I feel lost, in shock, disgusted, sad, and confused. But he's my little boy and I love him no matter how disgusted I feel with him right now. Since the school is involved I'm guessing there will be an investigation.I was molested when I was 2 and 6 and it really has affected me all my life. It's something I have never forgotten. I still get really bad anxiety about being touched or sitting too close to people I'm not fully comfortable with and if it's a prolonged instance (for example, on a busy transit where people are leg to leg on the seats and people are standing) I feel like I am going to have a panic attack. I feel so bad for these little girls and how it might affect their future.What should I expect to happen? What should I do? Are there rehabilitation programs for these things? Will he be labeled a sex offender? How can I support him (because he may also have been a victim) while still making sure he knows how wrong this is? I don't even know what to do about the living situation.I'm sorry if this seems jumbled and hard to understand. I've been shaking as I am writing this, my heart is in a knot. I tried to explain it the best way possible but if you need more details let me know. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2eM3cQn
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