I can't take this way any longer but my spouse continues to refuse helping me. How do you do it when your spouse won't help and your life feels like hell? LONG post.

Hey there - I am on a throwaway for the usual reasons. I am hoping you folks can give me some insight and suggestions on how to not hate my life.My husband has full custody of his 6 year old son from his first marriage, and we have a 2 year old girl together. My husband works nights 5 nights per week and sleeps all day. He is awake and participating in family life about 2 hours a day MAX.I work 2 jobs and am in school. This is a typical week for me: get up at 6am, feed and get the 6year old ready for school, get the 2 year old up and fed and ready, load both kids up in the car, take the 6 year old to school. Drive back home with the 2 year old, punch in to my weekday job by 9am (I work this job from home). Work till 5pm at that job with one 30min break, simultaneously trying to entertain and keep a 2 year old happy and quiet so my husband can sleep. Clock out at 5pm, load her up again and go pick up the 6 year old from the after-school program. Get home and try to find something to feed everyone, while helping with homework, keeping 2 year old occupied. Husband has woken up while I was gone and is generally in a bad mood. He eats dinner, interacts with kids for a bit, then leaves for work by 7:30pm. I bathe and put kids to bed by 8:30, then TRY to clean up a bit and MAYBE take a shower myself and work on school assignments. Overnight, 2 year old wakes up at least 2, usually 3 times. I am lucky to get 6 total hours of sleep per night.That's what I do every M-Th. I work a second job on Sat and Sun that usually takes me out of the house for about 6 hours per day. Kids usually go to grandparents then. I drop them off and then pick them up.My husband and I are in counseling, but he just CANNOT understand why I am so stressed out. I feel like I am literally ALWAYS on the clock, either at work or with the kids or often both simultaneously. He thinks because he makes "the money" (I work 2 part-time jobs though, remember) this absolves him of anything else. He gets 10-11 hours of uninterrupted sleep every day. I don't get that in 2 nights.We just got into a blowout because I was in the bathtub and the 2 year old was pitching an epic fit, which woke him up. I haven't had a bath since Sunday. I thought she was occupied in her play corral happily enough to allow me a 10 min wash with the door open- I was wrong. She woke him up and I got my ass handed to me. I lost ym shit and told him I hate it here and can't do this anymore. He told me to leave.I started to pack a bag this time, and he grabbed it from me and told me if I think I'm going ANYWHERE, I need to to take the 2 year old, and I can't take the car I drive because it is in his name and he will report it stolen.Lovely. We have another counseling session Friday. I do not know how to make it clear to him that expecting me to work 24/7 and have no life is killing me. I love my daughter and would never leave her, but I can't do this anymore.EDIT: Before anyone can suggest daycare for the 2 year old, my husband refuses. Says it is a waste of money when I am here all day. We make too much to qualify for a subsidy, and not quite enough to make a $300/wk daycare bill work, anyways. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2dPpCLT