10 yo daughter gets apprehensive to do some new things and I don't know better ways to encourage it.

My 10yo is your average kid, she has many strengths and is very mature in many ways. She will serve cold foods/drinks for herself and the younger kids, help teach them how to do things for themselves, clean up after herself, help them clean up after themselves; she's self reliant in organizing her belongings and doing homework independently, etc.But she will draw the line on her independence in some ways, for example anything to do with preparing hot food, be it as simple as toast or microwaving a single item. She gets this "look" on her face showing me that she's in an anxious distressful disposition and I can't find the magic approach to help her feel like it's ok.She says "I don't feel like I'm responsible enough. I don't want to burn myself." Her face looks like she's on the verge of tears. I've told her that she's definitely responsible enough and many kids as young as 5 or 6 can prepare foods in the microwave or toaster, so I believe she's ready too, but she disagrees.A time or two I actually did "force" her to microwave a hot dog by describing all the steps, because I was preoccupied or something. I praised her and told her to see how capable and responsible she is after all but she slowly was overcome by tears afterward anyway because the anxiety was too much for some reason.Separately from those couple times, if I insist on her doing it, she would end up changing her mind to eat something cold.I don't know how to get her past this mental block.AFAIK nothing traumatic has happened TO her to cause a fear of preparing hot foods but I'm sure I didn't help the situation any by giving her cautionary tales as a younger kid about kitchen safety and not touching anything hot. But I thought that was common stuff to tell kids.Can anyone give input on a new approach I could try? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2epqRXD