I really need to vent Reddit.My husband, son and I were invited to my husbands grandmother's cabin for the 4th of July weekend. We joined my husbands grandmother, step grandfather, aunt and uncle. Well, of course my 2 year old has been a bit of a strain on all the older adults who haven't had small children for decades. All weekend my kid has been yelled at and told he can't do this or touch that. So of course he has started to just tune it out. Because of this I've been reserving time outs for really serious stuff.In particular, my grandparent-in-laws brought their injured dog and my son thinks it's funny when she yelps. He seeks her out and tries to step on her injured foot. I've tried to explain that she is hurt and I always put him in time out when he goes near her and then make him apologize to the dog. Afterwards he is good for awhile but forgets and wanders near her or gets ornery and does it intentionally.By the end of the weekend he's been leaving her alone for the most part, but tonight he went after her when I had my back turned and stepped on her. Well my step-grandfather-in-law lost it and started yelling that the next time he did that it would carry serious consequences and not just a time out and "I'm not talking about spanking either."I was furious and tried to hold my tongue because I knew I wouldn't articulate well and my husband just said stuff like "come on, he's two." To which his step-grandfather replied that he doesn't listen to anything and is a little monster. I couldn't hold my tongue anymore and went off about how he listens most the time but this whole weekend he's been told not to touch anything or do anything and is constantly getting yelled at so I'm not surprised he's stopped listening. My husbands aunt (who's also a teacher) cut in and said not to worry, he really is a very well behaved boy for his age. And kept reassuring that she's been impressed with his behavior. That shut up the whole table but I was still fuming.After dinner I took my son in the house and locked him in our room with me to pack and watch a movie. My husband and I plan to leave first thing tomorrow and agreed we are definitely not coming back till our kid is a much older child.Anyway, I'm still pissed. I think part of me is so bothered because I feel like a bad parent with a spoiled child. But my kid really is pretty well behaved. 60% of the time he does what you ask right away, 20% he needs to be asked twice, 15% I have to count to 5, and the rest of the time I have to put him in timeout. And right now he's out of his element, away from his toys and a place where he knows what's what. And they haven't been ok with anything he does. He gets yelled at for touching anything but his own stuff. Oh, and did I mention he got a cold the first night we were here and has been running a fever? I don't know. What do you parents think? Am I raising a little psychopath? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/298Ruas
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