What is Dad’s role with the kids? Just looking for views on this... thanks!

So... I suspect, depending on how you were raised and current demands re job, hours, commute, etc., you have an “best case scenario” re how dad should be engaged with the kids. Does Mom handle most of it, make the appts,, contact the teachers, talk to the kids re any issues that come up, and dad just does what he can or feels like he can or is willing to do? Or should mom and dad discuss and decide most decisions and child raising topics together? Does Mom do all of the night feedings and soothing? My husband slept through the night, for a year when our son was newborn. I did not as I was always feeding and soothing.Just curious as I went into my marriage thinking that my husband was a co-parent and willing to help me on these things and frankly, he does not in most. He has his own hobbies and works many many hours, including some weeknights and some weekends. He even works from home, but is not emotionally invested much in the child raising. I dunno - did I expect too much? I have a job and contribute $ - and lots of it - to the household. He is very well paid and takes care of health care through job, but I pay all of my own medical bills - even after insurance a LOT as I underwent cancer treatment. Is this off? What is dad/husband role in general? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/327Rpzi