My 4 year old son is very private about his body. He does not like hugs or kisses and bestows them rarely but genuinely. I try to support this as much as possible. My 8 year old son is very open and touchy feely. He is constantly kissing and hugging his brother even though the 4 year old constantly whines and protests that he’s uncomfortable and doesn’t like it. I have tried and tried to tell my older son that bodies are private and he needs to respect that not everyone likes kisses and hugs and that it is not ok to touch someone without their permission but he keeps doing it. I’m feeling like it’s his way of antagonizing his brother but he can pretend it’s out of kindness so he doesn’t get in trouble. But he is overly affectionate with everyone, hugging his cousin and snuggling with her (she’s 3) even though to me it feels weird. When I was a little girl I was molested by an older boy and my husband thinks this has made me afraid of physical expression between children. I just don’t know. Today my oldest son again planted kisses on his brother and squeezed his cheeks and I said ok you know what? Younger son, go ahead and punch your brother if he does it again. The older brother got mad and I said you’re hurting him and now I think it’s ok that he defends himself. My husband said I made the wrong choice. Please help! I told my older son in the adult world hugging and kissing people against their wishes is called assault and you could get in trouble for it but he doesn’t seem to understand. Am I just being paranoid? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/35na2Bk
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