He’s been toilet trained a while now , but seems to go through phases where he has accidents . He is a very intelligent and interesting boy , a teachers delight at school . When I discover it he says sorry and we clean him up. Today I gave him wipes and we tried to clean up together but I could t get him to clean it all up himself because he’s not very good at it and it’s quite a mess . When I ask him why he didn’t go to the potty he says he was just having too much fun and didn’t want to go , but this was a frequent occurrence when he was 3 and now it seems to be back .. Anyhow I don’t really understand this . We are pretty gentle and empathetic parents . Rarely raise our voices , practice the positive parenting philosophy. Try to stay calm in stressful situations which I have been in these incidents. One of the only times I raised my voice at him was a year or two ago when he took a massive crap in my bed in the daytime . I wonder it these incidents are somehow connected to that ? My own father was pretty horrible in these situations amongst most of his parenting in Fact. I remember an incident where I had an accident and was very ashamed so I hid the evidence . He found it and paraded it around the house humiliating me further . This kind of thing paired with physical abuse had me in therapy for years. I feel like I’m doing a great job and not following those destructive patterns yet I still find myself in these recurring situation where it feels as though our positive approach isn’t getting the desired effects . I’m getting pretty exasperated , he seems to scream and cry a lot when he doesn’t get his way or doesn’t want to do something . It makes me pretty sad . I think it reminds me of my own neglected childhood somehow , but I’m generally a pretty good parent , so why is my kid acting out ?Any experienced parents have some helpful insight ? I’m having a pretty bad day I guess ... via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Q83VfR
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