So when my mother first divorced my sperm donor that's what I'll call him, he had no interest in us at all which. Was fine I was 3 almost 4. So I didn't even realize what he looked like when he showed up to get me from day care (not same procedures). He had told the office he was my dad so they got me ready to go. They were used to seeing my mom I guess just thought oh this name knows her name says he's her dad. Must be her dad.At that age I didn't understand who he was so to me this is nothing but stranger danger so I sit down on the floor and started crying and screaming and I was just hysterical and they couldn't calm me down. So my sperm donor went to pick me up and take me but I just got worse. Just crying screaming and it was out of character for me so one of the workers had called my mom . Told her I was throwing a fit and wouldn't go with my dad and his unlike me that was.She told them there is no dad and to call the police she would be right there don't let me leave with him. Cops showed up and then my mom. Really not much they could do legally my mom has full custody of me and sperm donor ad visitation rights but never used them. He said he was just coming to get me for visit. Nope. Those have to be arranged. Just a shitty situation that freaked me out. I was almost kidnapped by my sperm donor.After this incident he didn't try to contact us at all. my mom meets a guy who IS my Dad. In all ways that matter. Wonderful man married my mom even with three kids of her own already. He's a rare one! At this time only sperm donor decided to exercise his visitation rights. Not so much for her but for his parents and family I guess.So we were around a lot of new people they were trying to get us used to with these two life changes. That's hard to remember for my 5 yr old self and 3yr old brother.We needed a ride home from school one day because my mom couldn't do it. But we've talked a lot about stranger danger and after that incident it kinda made me even more wary of stranger danger. So my mom wanted us to know that they know this person, they have permission to bring us home. That even though we don't know them, mommy and daddy did and said it was ok. Knowing that that a typical stranger line she said"I'm going to give you a secret password and they have to tell you this super secret password before you can go with them. If they don't know it, you can't go with them and get a teacher" the password is "GO GO GADGET" She picked something we could remember but also weird enough a stranger wouldn't think that right away. Everything went smooth that day.A few months later my sperm donors brother came to pick us up from school. TO THE OFFICE. He told them he needed to get us because if a family emergency. We were ready got up there and we didn't ha e directions that we were leaving but he did look familiar but..... My little brother elbowed me and said what's the password?Yep. We asked him the password and he didn't know it. He said it was an emergency he didn't have time to get it but it was ok because our mom sent him. We said you have to call our mom he don't know the password. That means we can't go with him.They call our mom , she says no, call the cops he's out on bail. Turns out he was just busted for child molestation and was out on bail. No idea what he wanted with us but probably not good reasons.Point: explain stranger danger even when you think they are too young. Use extra security if you do have different people getting your kids. Change that password so the same person can't use it when they aren't supposed to. If you are going through potential parent abduction make sure those in charge know . via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2XyewCz
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