Exhausted dad - does this happen in other homes as well?

Hey everyone. I'm not sure why I'm making this post, perhaps te vent or perhaps to just get some confirmation that I'm not insane. I feel guilty of making this post as perhaps I'm only explaining my side of the situation, but I am trying to be as objective as possible. New and anonymous account for obvious reasons.I've been married for 6 years now and we have a 3 year old and 7 month old baby at home. Things have been extremely tough. Our 3 year old is quite demanding and isn't sleeping through the night (most nights he wakes up at least once) and the 7 month old is just being a normal 7 month old, waking up a few times a night wanting to be fed. The problem is our 3 year old doesn't want anyone except his mom putting him to bed. We have tried so many different things so that I can put him to bed (which I did do up to about 5 months ago), with no success. So at this point I can't do much during the night to help out my wife. I do wake up and go fetch our 3 year old, lying next to him sometimes, fetching bottles or medicine of necessary, or doing what I can, but it's pretty much all up to her.I do try and make up for it by getting our 3 year old dressed and fed in the morning and dropped off at daycare, as well as giving him his bath etc in the evenings. I'm not that involved with the 7 month old as he usually gets dressed after I leave for work (and I honestly don't have time in the mornings), and same in the evenings. I try to help out as much as I possibly can with any chores that needs to be done or anything I can think of. Needless to say all of this is tough and exhausting, especially as I'm working 10+ hours a day in a highly stressful and exhausting industry.As for my wife, she has her own business at home, which although it does bring in money, isn't doing very well currently. I help out with that as much as possible, managing the website, finances and marketing in the evenings when I find time.Essentially I'm the breadwinner, which I'm 100% fine with.And this is where the problem comes in. My wife has time to go the gym in the mornings when I leave for work (3 year old is at daycare, 7 month old with nanny/business assistant). After that she usually has time for brunch with friends, or on other days lunch or other social activities through the day. Yet she's always complaining how tired she is when I get home in the evenings. I have asked her why she doesn't nap during the day and there's always another excuse (mostly that she had such a busy day). Because of this dinnertime is a disaster most of the time, with 2 screaming kids and an exhausted wife snapping at everyone.Again, I wouldn't mind this if there was no other way. But she probably works 2 to 4 hours a day, and then she accuses me of not doing my part. She has said things like she feels like a single parent and according to her she always has to plead with me to do anything (which is complete BS). I normally try and stay calm as getting angry will only exarberate the situation but it's getting harder and harder every day. I can't reason with her anymore as it's starting to feel that she's using me and taking me for granted. I have to walk on eggshells all the time as she will snap at me for any small thing, to the point where I have started avoiding her at home or not bothering to talk to her as odds are she'll just get angry at me for whatever reason. When I ask her to not talk to me like that she says I'm oversensitive or ignores me.Does this happen in other homes as well after having kids? I feel like I'm fighting for survival. Honestly, if it weren't for the kids I would have packed my things and left. I fantasize daily about making other decisions 7 years ago. I have already resolved to wait another year or three before taking any drastic decisions (hopefully things will return to normal when everyone sleeps through the night), but I don't know if I'll survive much more of this.We have another weekend ahead which I'm dreading - I already can't wait for Monday morning to escape back to the office.P.S. Here's the kicker. Her name is Karen. For real. Hahahaha, I guess I should have seen this coming. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/337BZfL