10F is too forgiving

My 10F has high-functioning autism and is kind to a fault, always forgiving people who apologize to her. It sounds like a good thing, but it's made her into a doormat and people are walking all over her. Last weekend she told one of the girls in her class a secret and the girl told all their classmates. My daughter came home from school on Monday crying and humiliated. I comforted her and we had a long talk about figuring out who we can trust. By the end of it she felt very strongly this girl couldn't be trusted and said she would never tell her a secret again. Tuesday she came home announcing the girl had apologized and they were friends again. Now my daughter is telling her more secrets. I gently reminded my daughter what we talked about, but she refuses to hear it, saying the other girl was really sorry and now that they've made up she wouldn't do that again.This is just one example. It's been a pattern since she was 6 or 7 and she's become a target. Kids have figured out they can be cruel to her, call her names and break her things, then say sorry and she'll act like nothing ever happened. Her therapist is working with her on how to tell a real apology from a fake one, not that it seems to be helping much. I used to stop letting these kids come over when they treated her badly, but she's getting older and I worry for her safety as an adult if this continues.What would you do? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/37sxrD9