Saturday, 25 May 2019

Is this a bad idea?


Ive been toying with the idea of putting an ad out for a room mate of sorts, and I wanted to see what you all thought about it. I could really use some extra minds to help me mull it over. If its anything anyone's had any either successful, or bad experiences with it, I'd love hear it.A little backstory: I'm a full time working mom (25) of a 7 month old girl. I was a stay at home mom until just a few weeks ago. I now work monday-friday 7am to 4pm. My partner (26) lives with me but was injured last month (why I went back to work) and is currently unable to work or take care of our daughter by himself. He does what he can but isnt good for extended periods of time. I live in a 2 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment and rent all over town(including here) is insane. What I make is pretty decent for our area at $12/hr, our rent is standard for the area and its $1200 a month. Before utilities! Thats almost all of my income! Even working 40+hours a week, I can hardly scrape by and make rent and bills happen. Food stamps is the only reason we eat. Wic has been a miracle, since now that I'm working I cant exclusively breast feed, and having assistance with formula and baby food is a life saver! Needless to say I cant afford child care. Ive been scrambling at least 3 out of 5 days a week to find someone to help me since I started working. I'm lucky its been working out so far, but it can't keep up forever.I'd love to have a single woman right around my age or a little younger or older (they dont have to not be in a relationship, just as long as they dont live with a partner) who maybe does online school or night classes, Willing to move into our second bedroom. free room and board, essentially I'd provide for them in exchange for childcare mon-friday from when I leave for work to when I come home. Nights and weekends are all theirs! They just have to be able to wake up early on the weekdays. Obviously no partying, or groups of friends at the apartment, but they can go out and do whatever they want in their free timeOr preferably,A single mom with 1 child around one or younger who works an opposite schedule, nights and/or weekends, to move in and pay 1/3 of the rent, and supply their own or help with groceries. Utilities covered. And we can trade off taking over childcare when the other is working. And in this case, even though my husband cant physically take care of our daughter on his own, he can be a big help! So there would always be some support when either of us are home with the two babies, and need to grab a quick shower, or need to walk away and do whatever for short periods of time.What do you think? Do these sound like fair proposals? Could this kind of thing be a good symbiotic relationship/living arrangement? Or am I dreaming?Edit: Its been pointed out to me that the first option is essentially a live in nanny that I dont pay. Which is totally unfair. I understand, and I certainly dont want to take advantage of anyone. I honestly didn't think about it that way. So that option is off the table. I was thinking of it more as a friendship, or two people on hard times helping eachother out. Not an employee employer relationship. But I realise now thats not realistic or right. I cant just essentially ask someone to be my housewife lol. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/30HOSfM

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