** sorry I spelled conscience wrong**Hi everyone, I’m a 27 year old mom to a 4 year old boy. This past year, I’ve been eliminating foods from my diet and implementing healthier choices. Before I was feeling so sick, tired, and not well. It has been a very long journey for me, in the process I have lost 20 pounds, and I feel healthier overall. I have cut out the junk food, simple carbs, the sugars, the soda, etc. Over the past few weeks, it has hit me over the head that the foods I now refuse to eat because I don’t feel well eating them, I feed to my son.He’s a picky eater. For his first three years of his life I was a struggling single mom working a full time job and going to college at night. My mom helped care for him A LOT. We often fought over what she fed him (lots and lots of sugar) and had a complete power struggle for years. We no longer have a relationship, though — that’s a long and complicated story but he’s no longer watched/babysat by her. Which for all things for my family, is for the better.He is now in preschool, has a pretty structured life, and I’m able to spend a lot more time with him. While all that had changed, I haven’t changed his eating habits the way I want to and I feel so defeated and overwhelmed even trying to do so. Over the past year, he has been eating a few more veggies (peas and green beans), whole grain bread, and has finally started to eat some meat such as chicken — I’ve been trying to say no to the junky foods and candy but by the end of the day, I don’t want to hear him wail and cry over not getting something. Also, I don’t want him to be hungry. It’s a constant battle.Yesterday he had: Breakfast: French toast sticks Lunch: pepperoni lunchable, peanut butter crackers, (I packed him green beans but his teacher said he hasn’t been eating them much), and a nuttella/pretzel dip snack pack. Snacks: he has 2 snacks at school that usually consist of packaged snacks like crackers, gold fish, teddy grahams. Dinner: Chick fil a nuggets and fries with an apple juice. Snack before bed: packaged cheese crackers and 3 small white powdered donuts.To some it might sound terrible, then to others it might seem fine. But to me, I see a lot of processed food. He refuses to try fruits and other veggies. Also he needs more protein. And if I try, I end up feeling defeated. He begs for sweets, candy, chips, etc. I don’t always give in, but sometimes I do. I sometimes wonder if his nutrition is what is causing his sleep problems and constant colds. Also, obesity is in our genes and I don’t want that for him. The guilt is really weighing heavy on me because I wouldn’t eat what I feed my kid, anymore. I want him to live a healthier life and have a good future with his relationship with food and also health. I don’t know where to start. I’ve tried to look for kids cookbooks and such, but feel lost.Any suggestions? I want to redo his diet and cut out the junk but I don’t want to be militant about it. Like changing my own diet, I want to do it in a progression and over time to cut out/add new food.... but where to start? I have no idea. :( via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2SV164w
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