I am a father of three, one boy two girls, currently in their twenties. my daughters have never had any problems with dating and relationships, both have had a number of boyfriends in high school and college and are now in steady relationships. They also have pretty good social circles.In direct contrast, my son has never dated anyone and to my knowledge, has not even gone out with a girl. He is already pushing 30. Usually I’m not worried at all but lately he had a heart to heart talk with me about how lonely he was feeling. He actually cried in front of me, which surprised me because the last time he did that when he was 12. He told me that he has been feeling very lonely, that life was passing him by, that he wanted to find soemeone he can share his life with but didn’t even know where to start.I had a hard time giving him any advice because I honestly don’t see anything wrong with him. I couldn’t tell him to work out because he was neither obese nor out of shape. In fact, he was quite fit for his age. And I don’t think he has any problems with his personality or his career path, as he had always been liked by the people who know him plus he’s a good student, got good grades and has a stable career. I did tell him to try out online dating but he told me he’s already tried it and no one “matched” with him, whatever that means. I tried running through a mental list of friends I knew with single daughters and to my surprise I realised none of them were single!What worries me is that I see the exact same pattern in all the families I know too. Single sons and taken daughters. Just recently another father approached me with the same observation. It seems like this is a problem disproportionately affecting sons.I am at a loss as to how to help my son. My questions in summary, are:What are the reasons for sons having it harder than daughters in dating?Have you experienced this? And if so, Is there anything I can do to help him? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2NoHLCH
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