How do I sort out what I want?

I’m two years into parenting and one of the biggest challenges I’m trying to see my way through is that in the middle of all of this I have completely lost track of my opinion on the things I want out of life and how to get them. It’s like my opinion on anything has been erased (by me) and replaced with what is good for the family or the kids. It’s small stuff like what’s for dinner. But it’s also big stuff like what we do for holidays, where we travel, what our house looks like, what I wear, how we spend our money. Of course all of these things should be considered for the whole family but the other day my husband tried to pin down my opinion on what I wanted to do for vacation and I literally couldn’t form an opinion that was just me. And now that I’ve noticed this, I’ve realized I’ve completely lost myself in ALL decisions I make. How do I even find me again in all of this? For context I work full time in a great job so I do have some time that’s non-family related but that’s still be being beholden to a whole other set of people and issues. I have no idea where to find me. Can you relate? How did you solve this problem? via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2HL6y4I