I’m feeling overwhelmed and I need input from those other than my husband or pediatrician at this point. I’m a licensed therapist in my state and something is telling me that my child is off, from a mother and a therapist standpoint, but I’ve only worked with adults and some of the lessons and my formal education in my masters degree did not focus on children. We’re having a lot of behavioral issues with my son he just turned two about two weeks ago. He’s always that kid, always a little extra. When he was a baby he was colicky and pretty much everything has been a challenge. What’s most concerning to me right now is that he’s been aggressive towards other children and adults. It started towards the end of my second pregnancy with his brother who is now seven months old. I think because he was getting less attention from me as I got tired and more pregnant, and my husband took on the majority of his duties after we got home from work. Since the baby came he’s been aggressive towards the baby, other children at parks or play dates, and adults. Usually when he’s tired, not getting enough attention, or oddly enough sometimes when he has to poop (we’re diving into potty training soon as he’s been showing a lot of signs). I want to clarify that he gets a lot of attention, and in his mind when he’s not getting enough attention he suddenly becomes frustrated. When I take him to a caregiver for work it’s just him and now his brother at the caregivers home. After my second child I gave notice and now work only a few days a week so that I could try and spend more time with both of them. To give my oldest one on one time I take him to my gym once a week, and when my husband is home we try and take turns giving each child individual attention.We don’t give him obvious sugar, he gets hidden sugar and things like Greek yogurt which he loves, and probably some of his favorite processed snacks like goldfish. I don’t give him candy or juice or anything like that so I know that he’s not getting unnecessary amounts of sugar to boost his energy. He’s very energetic so I try my best to get them outside to the park walking around our neighborhood and things like that. We live in a two bedroom townhome so we don’t have a whole lot of room to run around inside. We often have to leave events like toddler time at the library, my gym, the park, because he gets overstimulated quickly becomes frustrated and at times will exhibit that frustration through aggressive behaviors. The pediatrician keeps assuring me that this is a phase and that we might have another six months to one year as he becomes more verbal before this dissipates. We’ve tried timeouts, I regret that we have tried spanking at times and sadly after feeling frustrated usually after he hit or kick the baby for the 10th time and we just were fed up, but we’ve decided that we don’t Find the spanking beneficial at this time (and again we definitely regret that it occurred a few times in frustration on our part which is a no no), We try and emphasize the person who was struck and minimize the attention he gets when he hits, I have hands are not for hitting the book. He is goood with animals and shows empathy to them, so I don’t think he’s a sociopath 😆.I only have one close friend that has a child his age and her child seems to be a unicorn baby, he was sleeping through the night early on, always has well-behaved, isn’t difficult to feed or get in the car seat or go to bed etc. So I need to hear from other people that might have experience something similar to us. Being a therapist I want to take him to a child psychologist because this is been going on for over eight months now. My husband doesn’t want to do that. Another thing that I think he had too much time up especially when the baby was firstborn was screen time, we’ve drastically reduce that now that we’ve kind of gotten our lives in order again, but to be honest it was survival mode when we had two under two during that time of adjustment. Speaking of adjustment I would like to highlight that this has been a rough year for Him, i was pregnant, had a baby, was on maternity leave, changed jobs, our schedule changed quite a few times. If you’ve read this far, I’m looking for constructive advice. I know reddit can be very judgmental at times, wherever we’re making errors we would like to improve it, obviously we can’t do everything perfectly, we’re trying our best. I do think that there is room for improvement. I have started looking at parenting books recommended in this sub. Anyone out that that can commiserate and offer insight? via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2F6xfhu
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