My boys are 16 and 14. They are one grade apart in school. My oldest is a sophomore and the youngest is a freshman.When my kids were in 4th and 3rd grade, the younger one was identified as being gifted. We moved him to a different school since our local public school does not have a gifted program. The gifted program only goes through 8th grade though so my younger one moved to the public high school in town with his brother this year. What a mess it has been.The oldest is popular, athletic, and charismatic. He has a girlfriend and a large group of popular friends. He isn't the best student but he gets Bs and a few As. He tries hard and wants to go to college but school is harder for him. His brother is very intelligent and gets straight As without trying. They both took the PSAT this year and the younger one outscored the older one. The younger one is on the advanced track so he's taking the same level math and science courses as his brother, but the younger one is in honors courses and the older one is in the regular classes. I know the older one resents this. They have the same teacher for earth science and my older one feels like he's being compared to his brother but has no evidence for this. The younger one is feeling resentment too. He's good looking but doesn't get the same attention from girls that his brother gets. He isn't interested in dating but says that his brother can get girls so easily and it's not fair. He also eats lunch with one friend while his brother has a whole crew around him. It may not seem like a lot but it's constantly causing problems at home. They argue a lot more and it's always about how the younger one wishes he was popular or how the older one wishes he was smarter. It's annoying and they recently separated bedrooms because they couldn't stand sharing anymore. It hasn't stopped the arguments.I don't know what to do. Should I see about sending one of them to a different school or just tough this out? via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2Wh4yo0
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