My wife's parents treat me like a sperm donor.

Had a baby 3 weeks ago. From the start I've had to deal with my mother in law treating me like half of a father.As soon as my daughter was born we were informed we had an hour with her before she had to be admitted to the NICU. After my wife holding our daughter for 30 minutes I ask my wife to let me hold her. I go in to scoop up my daughter for the first time and my mother in law pushes my hands away and tells me "stop, shes comfortable with her mom." I Ignore her and do it anyway. This is my daughter. I've been awake for 27 hours with my wife worried sick because she had a 104 temp. So my first memory of holding her has to be trampled by this bullshit.The plan was to stay with MIL for two weeks. We are having to deal with passive aggressive comments about how we are "starving her, letting her cry for too long" for 3 days. My wife is trying to breast feed. Baby was ruined by a bottle being in the NICU. She screams and cries the first 5 mins of trying to breast feed, my wife pumps and we supplement with formula.Yesterday while wife was trying to breast feed, I go into the kitchen to get a warm bottle ready, and my MIL comes up to me and says "why is she crying, what did you do wrong now?" I Ignore her.I come home from work, MIL is holding my daughter, I ask her "can I hold my baby?" MIL gets offend and makes a big deal about this. Says she will no longer hold the daughter at all when I am home.Yesterday was the last straw. For the last few days, I've been coming home from work and going into our room to see our baby. Every day I've come home I've noticed she has a poop diaper and needs to be changed. She hates getting her diaper changed. I came home 2 nights ago to find out she had a blow out and seriously needed to be bathed. Baby hates this, screams. Like babies do. I come home from work and see my daughter with poop everyplace i'm going to take care of it.Yesterday, my MIL comes up to my wife while i'm at work and told me wife "I've noticed every time sellingmachine comes home, he goes into the room and baby starts crying. She's so calm DURING THE DAY AND SLEEPS ALL DAY. As her mother you need to put you foot down and tell him not to go into the room and pick up his daughter."Fuck no. We're done. I tell my wife to pack our things and to bring the baby to our home. We only live 5 miles from MIL so its not a big deal. Ton's of drama ensures. MIL tells my wife that she just won't have a "relationship with her granddaughter."Now i'm dealing with a wife angry at me for demanding we go back home. I feel like I had to put my foot down. She crossed a boundary and I'm not going to roll like that.Anyways, sorry, I had to vent. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2WiHwgq