My ex husband and I split. We have been easily been doing 5050 since then. Now, kids are coming to school age. My daughter is 3. My son is going to he 5. My son is autistic. And about 3 years delayed. My ex lives in an area with wonderful autism resources and schools. I live in an area 2 hrs away with amazing Montessori and nature school resources my daughter would gobble up happily.We are debating splitting the kids. My son with him, my daughter with me. As neither of us have the money or option to move. Of they both were with my ex, my daughter would be full time. 8 to 6 in daycare. With me, she would only require an in home nanny 2 days a week. Then attend a great preschool til 1230 when I'm off work everyday. And we would have the day open for play groups or anything else. My son would have and amazing pca with his father. And have a way to attend the therapy and schools he needs desperately.We are getting heat from family on separating them. And I've had to explain a million times. Friday afternoon to Sunday night, they would be together. Every week. With either dad or myself. And my son needs to focus on school. They kids fight, constantly. Which is normal. But it is so distressing for my son as it is, I can't imagine him in school with kids, then home with her. He would never get a break and time to recharge.We've experimented weeks here and there. And they did AMAZING. My son had zero meltdowns. My daughter got the attention she craves but doesn't get when my son is so high needs.Basically. I'm looking to parents for advice. Or how to handle the naysayers. via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2Usa8Cv
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