Am I wrong for wanting nothing to do with my mother in law?

My first pregnancy was hard because we ended up losing the baby due to a miscarriage and lived with my in laws at the time. I was gifted a couple things for the baby that I had left in my room on the night stand. When I had come home from the hospital after the miscarriage I saw my baby stuff were gone. My mother in law took them without asking me. I’m sure she did it trying to not upset me but I feel like she had no right to. It took us a little over a year to get pregnant again and this time around we lived with my parents to help them out. At the time I worked for a hotel that my mother in law was a manager for and my father in law and husband were also employed there too. I had to tell my mother in law the days and times of my appointments so that she wouldn’t schedule me for those times and she would invite herself to my appointments!!!! Our first baby and there she was every single time. I told my husband that it was our first baby and I didn’t want her at our appointments I just wanted those special moments with just me and him. He told me she was just excited but he would still talk to her. (This is her 6th grandchild )Anyway we thought it would be fun to have one of those gender reveals so we could all find out with the family and celebrate. The plan was for my sister and mom to throw the gender reveal and his sister and mom to throw the baby shower. The day of finding out what we were having at the dr was getting closer and I asked my husband if he talked to his mom about showing up at our appointments and he said he did. She knew what day we were going to find out the gender and as soon as I walk into the waiting room to my appointment I don’t only see my mother in law but my father in law too. I was so mad I wanted to cry but still said nothing. They wanted to find out so fine. Whatever. One day at work I was talking to a co worker she was telling me she thinks I’m having a girl and my mother in law walks past us and says with attitude “I’m 110% sure it’s a boy “ rolls her eyes and walks off. My co worker was at a loss for words. Everybody knew I was having a gender reveal to find out what I was having (including my mother in law) when I got off work I cried to my husband telling him his mom already told me what we were having and all the work and money my sister was putting in for the get together was all for nothing now. He told me she probably just said that to throw us off and we still weren’t sure what we were having and he was going to talk to her. I’m sure he never did. And at the gender reveal found out in fact it was a boy. Fast forward at 7 months pregnant and I’m sitting in the office on my lunch and my mother in law is telling me she bought a car seat for the baby and that she bought a stroller for the baby and that she’s looking into a bassinet (all things that we already have at our home and that she knows we have ) confused I don’t say anything until I get home. Told my husband idk what she’s thinking but she’s not keeping the baby??? I think she had in her mind that she was going to just come over and get them whenever she wanted and then bring them back. Not ok. So he tells her and she starts crying saying that’s just not how she thought things would be. Like....I don’t see why she would think that would be okay. Then at work my mother in law was telling me who was going to be in MY delivery room. She said my father in law had to be in there and he was going to cut the baby’s cord because it was tradition (um no it’s not because he didn’t do it to all grandkids so no). I was livid at this point. I couldn’t believe she was telling me who was going to be in my delivery room. I told my husband that I was not comfortable having his dad in there and that it was not ok for her to be telling me who I’m having. He was upset that I didn’t want his dad in there but still told them anyway. The day he told them and I had to work I got into the office and got sent to doing housekeeping. At 8 months pregnant I had 12 rooms to clean. She partnered me up with my coworker who was 5months pregnant. I got up stairs and saw my father in law and said hi and good morning and he looked right through me and walked away. (He ended up ignoring me for about 3weeks and didn’t talk to me until my husband asked ME to say something to him first ) my father in law came to see how many rooms we had left to do a couple hours later and I got a call from my mother in law getting yelled at for not having as many rooms done as everyone else. Again I’m 8months pregnant at this point. After finishing the rooms I go downstairs and work my usual front desk shift and check in guests and she gives me two trash bags full of a bunch of towels and sheets that she told me to spray with this thick smelly chemical. I told her I couldn’t do it because my dr said I shouldn’t use chemicals and I had already cleaned rooms that day and she told me she was going to write me up for not doing my job. So i did it. I wanted to call Human Resources on her but didn’t because she was family. At that point I was too scared to tell her I didn’t want her in my delivery room because I knew she was going to take it out on me at work giving me night shifts cutting my hours and having me work in housekeeping. The last straw was when my husband and I agreed to not circumcise the baby. I knew that my mother in law was going to say something because surprise surprise she told me I had to get him circumcised. I told him “what are you going to tell your mom when she asks u why were not doing it “ and he told me he was going to tell her it was none of her business. After I had the baby I saw text msgs from his mom and she had sent him a screenshot of a pros list to circumcising babies. And his response was “I know mom but she doesn’t want to”. I was so pissed. I felt like this was the last straw. He let his parents treat me like shit and I was over it. I wasn’t going to have them disrespect me anymore. Especially in front of my son. Now they only see him here and there when I feel bad that my husbands family can’t enjoy him as much as he would like. So recently I saw his mom shaking the baby (playing with him) still dangerous and not ok so I said something about it and she took it the wrong way. Then we went to visit an aunt at the hospital on Christmas Eve after she had surgery and they had told us to go and we ended up waiting for 2 hours to see her and I told him we had to go get ready because we had plans and very rudely his mother said “it’s fine just leave I’ll just tell her you stopped by”. I didn’t see what the big deal was we could visit her when she got home and we had already been waiting for a long time and had plans. After that I told my husband I didn’t want anything to do with his mother. I no longer work there either. I’m just so tiered for her acting like the victim and like she hasn’t done anything wrong but when I see her she’s incredibly rude and irritating. Am I crazy?? Should I get over it?? via /r/Parenting http://bit.ly/2LRhtZ4