My youngest daughter is 20 years old and hasn't worked in 6 months. She admits she is "lazy" and has lied about being in job training when she hasn't. She has stolen money from her mom (my ex) and also had a lot of parties at her apartment, swim times for an apartment I am paying for. She is not emotionally mature enough for me to sleep at night if I threatened to stop payment on rent. I don't want her sleeping under a bridge.For Thanksgiving: We are planning a very large get together with family, siblings from both sides. My wife has seen me put up with so much, and has been taken advantage of her goodwill as well. My daughter has also stolen money from my mom the last time she visited her house. My mom will be there. Naturally there will be some tension over that too.My daughter's mom lives in another state and is "demanding" she be a part of our Thanksgiving get-together. Yet she hasn't seen her in 6 months, although my daughter has not visited her either despite being sent a bus ticket.Despite all this, of course I love my daughter. She has an earnest sweetness and struggles to emotionally connect and wants to be the person we want her to be. But it's a steady series of hope and disappointment. I think she may have some Asberger's but never had a clear diagnosis.I'm stuck in the middle. My wife is not adamant, but it's causing stress for me right now to be in the middle. Any thoughts, strategies are welcomed. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2z4jv2O
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