As of two years ago my Dad is considered disabled thanks to a brain tumor and requires full time care by at least 2 people because he can't walk or communicate properly. I'm 22 and my sister is 18. What we went through with my Dad was the hardest thing I've ever dealt with and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Since the start I turned from typical young adult male who would go out all the time with friends and study and whatnot to staying at home full time to help support my Mum and Dad (Australian spelling of Mom is Mum btw). My sister on the other hand has done the opposite. She went from a normal caring girl to extremely abusive and disrespectful and goes out nearly every day leaving us on our own without any care or consideration for our situation. If we ever question her plans or ask her to stay home she acts as if the world is falling apart and deflects everything and gets extremely heated.~Whenever my Mum talks to her about anything my sister responds as if everything is a personal attack on her. She has the worst attitude and talks down to everyone and screws up her face as if it's ridiculous we would even think of talking to her because she's thinks she's so great. She would happily ask Mum to give her a lift somewhere at night during a storm but if Mum says no she starts freaking out because of how bad she feels for her friends who have to pick her up. It's seriously like she's a sociopath but only towards her family.My parents are the nicest and most forgiving and understanding people I know. They really spoiled us as kids and gave us just about anything we ever wanted and still do their best to do the same. They supported us through school, they always cared and really I can't imagine having better parents. I suppose being stricter might have helped in some areas but I love them with all my heart and it breaks it to see my sister acting so ungrateful all the time. I can see it on my Mum's face whenever my sister talks to her that she's just had enough but she knows there's nothing she can do. We just kind of go silent and hope she shuts up. Any time I've yelled back at her to get her to stop ends with her storming off to her room and me going in later to try and soothe things over and get her to come out and watch TV.My Dad can't talk properly and lately she's been acting really frustrated with him because while we're watching TV she sits there with her headphones on and sometimes she can hear him over whatever she's watching and that frustrates her and she'll storm off into her room. I'm sure it deeply upsets my Dad when she does that but he does his best not to show it because he doesn't want a fight to start.I know it's easy for a brother to complain about a sister or sibling in general for being annoying... But I am really worried about where this is heading with her. I don't know how much more my Mum can handle on top of everything else going on. It's so unfair for her to treat my Mum the way she does but I can't do anything about it. I just kind of want parenting advice I guess... Or brotherly advice... I don't know. Maybe I just wanted to vent. It's hard to put into words how she acts... I can only describe her as a monster. She shows no care or consideration for anyone but herself and any attempt to encourage her to do so is met with anger and verbal assault. How do you deal with that???Thanks for reading and any responses. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2DzYTmf
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