That feeling when you finally find out the issue

Little back story here. We have had concerns about our daughters speech starting at age 2, but delay was ruled out by our state’s early intervention program. However when she started preschool last year and especially this year (second year in the preschool) more issues were brought up by her teachers about her behavior in school. I was at loss, what did i miss, how was i so blind. Our son who is 3 years older was actually early in everything so it was easy for us to undermine our daughter’s issue. So i followed my guts and listened to the teachers, followed help from pediatrician who referred her to a speech therapist. The verdict came: language (mainly expressive) disorder. The explanation of this disorder describes everything about her, what’s going on in school, why i failed to see it. Because she is smart, above average, she picks up everything so fast, not being able to express it is what is causing her social issues in school, what i thought was extreme shyness.Then i wonder why, what can it be, i had spent the past couple weeks looking for hours into every possible explanation: social anxiety? ADHD? Asperger? Autism spectrum? That seems so hard to believe because of the lack of sensory or obsessive/repetitive issues. It seems her issues are anxiety related, it must be social anxiety disorder. I mean the other explanation could be genetics, which i do not see possible. Then 2 seconds go by... husband: “oh wait i had the same problem as a kid and i got speech therapy”. Wait what? We ve been married for 5 years, together for 3 more and this is the first time you tell me you had the same issues as our daughter? I mean he always said about how shy he was, he just remembers being shy and having finally speech therapy in second grade, unfortunately in the hands of a mother and school system who did not care much back then. Maybe you could have mentionned this when i was looking in the possibility of autism or anxiety disorder. Communication people! But now i am relieved, i know where my daughter needs help and that she will be fine in the end. Because i followed my guts, i stopped being afraid of the idea that she could have a problem, so i seeked an answer other than blinding myself to the idea of “she ll grow out of it because her brother was misbehaving too at her age and he is still top of his class today”. I found what my daughter needed, and finally she will be happy and thriving like she deserves.Follow your guts, don’t be afraid! A happy mama via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2A6VcB6