My daughter refuses to say good morning to her teacher and now she’s getting in trouble for it

My daughter just turned 5, she’s in pre K so this is her first year of school.She’s extremely shy. If I try to leave her with any type of caregiver she’s not familiar with and her sisters aren’t there, she will cry the entire time. She’s started ballet and she won’t participate if i make her stand with the group. We just sit there during class, hoping she will work up the courage to participate eventually—this was suggested by some of the moms from the class who had kids that were too nervous to participate at first.Anyway, we have been struggling since September with this good morning thing.The pre K kids get dropped off in the cafeteria each morning then they are taken to class where the teacher greets each kid with a good morning. My daughter just gives a blank stare every single time and goes in the room.The teacher has told me that this is an issue and she needs to learn to start saying it. So I’ve been telling her over and over that she needs to say it, yet she never does.I don’t think she’s intentionally being rude or disrespectful, she’s certainly not in any other activity. I think she just freezes up and feels awkward for whatever reason.It’s now gotten to the point where the teacher has pulled her aside and told her she can’t go in if she doesn’t say good morning which leaves my daughter in tears and she misses out on the morning play time because she’s just sitting there so upset.I don’t know how to force her to say it anymore. I feel like punishing her is no good because by the time she gets home, the whole day has passed and she’s forgotten about it. I also feel bad for punishing for this because I know she’s not doing it to be malicious.I’ve tried walking her to class for a week straight so I could convince her to say it but she still froze up and started crying.I never wanted to be that parent but I’m so sick of this argument. Part of me wants to tell the teacher my daughter doesn’t have to say good morning if she chooses not to.I feel like it’s just causing my daughter anxiety for no reason.Would it be appropriate to ask the teacher if she can switch up good morning for a high five? I think my daughter would be more willing to give a high five but again, don’t want to be that parent.And I truly wish I knew why it upsets my daughter to say good morning so much but she says she doesn’t know and that she will say it next time(but never does).Has anyone gone through this and how did you handle it? Am I being too easy on my daughter about this whole thing? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Tkhic3