I speak from experience. I loved my wife way before I could comprehend the meaning of the word love. I love her so much that when we are not together it feels like I’m crippled. We will make 10 years dating in April and 4 years married is June. When we had our son, I was young and trying to make ends meet. I was working odd hours and I neglected her a lot. After a few careers and close to a six figure salary later, I married my job. By the time my son turned 4 my wife and I went out 3-4 times in total. Never vacationed alone and never spent the night without the kids. She was a stay at home mom, and student the whole time. To say the least, she was over stressed and under appreciated and most importantly, she was lonely. So lonely, she met another mom who had a “life” and went out and smoked and drank. My wife friended this woman and started have her “own life”. Anyways, going out started turning to rejecting flirts to appreciating flirts. I didn’t care she was going out looking sexier every time because I trusted her so much until I noticed a text while switching her phone to the new ones. She told her friend she’s ready to leave me and meet someone new.I LOST IT.Went through the phases, grieving, disbelief, hate, sadness, acceptance. And I finally, FINALLY! Heard her. Everything started running through my mind, all the words, all the times she begged me to get of work, come home early, get off the computer and watch this with her, pay attention to her, work out with her. lol I WAS A DICK. I even fantasized about cheating on her for over a year because I FELT LONELY. And now realized, it was my fault. Anyways, I went to work the next day and took the week off. Booked a trip, and went home to surprise my wife. I was hyped. Bought flowers, got edible arrangements, showed up and told her the great news. Her reaction caught me off guard lol she was upset. She said, why would you take off, are you getting paid? And I asked what does it matter and she responds “ all you’re good for is making money”. That shit hurts. Anyways she agreed to go on the mini vacation with me without the kids. My parents thankfully watched the kids.We went upstate and stayed in Bear Mountain inn. Her favorite place to escape to from the city. First day was about having fun. Massages, hiking and dinner and chilling at the bar. We spoke for hours, told her how much I missed her and want to start over. She said she was so lonely and ready to leave me. She felt like a single mom for 4-5 five years. And I told her how sorry I was. How all I ever wanted was to give her and kids everything. When we got back, I went on Groupon and started planning out the rest of the year. I paid for dancing classes, something I always wanted to learn and we started learning to dance. Let me tell you guys, if there is anything that bring two people close together again, it’s dancing. Lol that lead to, weekly dates. And clubbing together like we were young. Lol I burned the idea of clubbing ever again out of her mind by taking her out so much. So we started going through the phases. We talk like best friends again. We plan outings. The kids are happier cause I’m around more and mommy and daddy don’t fight anymore. Oh! Sorry, dudes! READ THE SOLO PARTNER. OMG WILL IT CHANGE YOUR LIFE. Anyways a year later, our relationship is so amazing.My point, if you want your relationship to live, start dating each other. Please. Without the kids. Just go out and love each other. Oh and guys, When we started dating again, we fucked almost every night. We made love like no tomorrow. Road head, back seat sex, 4 am, kids are asleep sex. Dropped my son off to school, and drove back home, before a work sex, a lot of fucking sex. So much sex a year after dating she’s pregnant :). I love my wife so much now. Anyways also learn, you don’t need each other. You want each other. Codependency is pathetic ladies and gents. Anyways, don’t let having kids and having a career separate you. Men, learn to love your wife. Ladies, love your husband, more importantly learn about each other again. Another read: 5 love languages. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OLRhPl
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