My ex husband hasn’t been very involved with our son since the divorce. He pays $70/week in child support, but that’s only for the last three years after i had to get on assistance programs and they automatically file for you.We have joint custody and he is technically the primary because i couldn’t afford a lawyer when we got divorced. However, it took him almost three years to at least get on a regular visitation schedule with our son.Now he gets him every other weekend and I’m glad my son gets to see his dad. He just got remarried and that is why i am kind of upset right now. This girl has acted like she is the model parent, yet they never get my son more than every other weekend.She will post pictures of him on Facebook and Snapchat. She acts like she is mother of the year when she posts these things.I just want to comment and ask her: * how many times have you gone over his spelling words this weekend? * What books have you listened to him read? * How many nights have you stayed up with him when he was sick? * What “not fun” conversations have you had with him about life and growing up? * Why do you always feel the need to do “activities” with him? Part of life is staying home and spending time with your children.I do his homework with him, which is never easy for me. I cook his meals every night. I make sure he takes a shower and brushes his teeth. I buy him clothes. I take him to the doctor. I get him to after school tutoring. I put him to bed. I teach him responsibility. I teach him how to cook, clean and take pride in his belongings.All they ever do is go to the movies, go to theme parks and play Xbox and PlayStation, buy him presents and then he comes home. Sure it’s easy being a parent when that’s all you have to do. Real life doesn’t show up on the weekends. My son is 10 and he always tells me what they do at dad’s house.Ever since we quit sports to focus on grades, dad doesn’t come around during the week. Dad didn’t help you rehearse your speech 60 times and he won’t come to watch you read it in front of the whole school because you won first place. That’s not a sport. Step-mom doesn’t teach you to cook things like grilled cheese, burgers and cookies because they are too busy taking you out to eat for every meal.I know I sound bitter, and I probably am. But i work full time, go to school and raise my kid every damn day. I have a wonderful husband who is there for my son and doesn’t try to brag about being a great step dad because he knows this is part of life. I just needed some place to vent and I thought other parents might have some insight into how to deal with those feelings.Thanks for making it this far. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2qXigOl
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