Looking for some advice, please.Our daughter is the best, sweetest girl, but unfortunately seems to have inherited much of her parents' anxiety. She is completely potty trained, but it seems to have taken her longer than her classmates. She was the last one in her class to still wear diapers at school, even while she had been peeing in the toilet at home for a while. When questioned, she would say "I'm just not ready yet."She had been taking Miralax for much of her toddlerhood, because she often withheld, and had very hard, very large BMs. I'm sure this was painful for her, creating a feedback loop of withholding to avoid the pain. We have since put her back on Miralax.She clearly withholds (pacing, rocking, kicking legs, and her newest activity - trying to sit on my lap or foot or anything else she can sit on). I hate to say, no you can't sit on my lap, but I don't want to reinforce this holding behavior."Do you have to poop?" "No""Do you want a diaper so you can poop?" "Yes"Skidmarks in underwear often. Wife and I disagree on best route of action. Rewards vs punishment, love vs anger, diapers to "just let her get it out" vs "no, you must go in potty, you're a big girl."I know there is no "book" on parenting, but I'm interested in both what the "research shows is 'best'" and anecdotal success stories with similarly anxious children that should be potty trained by now... Thanks so much. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2qSQhPX
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